005. socks

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i can’t really pinpoint when i stopped sleeping through the night but it’s been years.  sometimes i sleep talk and sometimes i’ve found myself walking around the apartment awake enough to realize i’m moving but not fully awake enough to know why.

in addition, my temperature changes a few times throughout the night, so i often wake up wearing more or less clothing than i went to bed with. sometimes, apparently, my mister helps me along.  i’m quite lucky to have found such a caring person.


004. first meeting

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jake and i met in college.  i asked my friend to study together in the library one day, and she invited him to join us.  my first impression of him was that he seemed nice but wasn’t quite my style.  he wasn’t interested in me because i’m american.  we started dating about eight months later.

003. it will be okay

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i haven’t posted much since last year because a lot of things happened in november that just brought me down.  one of those things was an abnormal lump i found in my breast.  i drew this picture to help process some uncertain feelings i had while waiting to get the results of a needle biopsy.  luckily, everything turned out fine but it was scary.

also the hospital garment reminded me of 한복 so that helped a little bit ♡

daily 한복

Wearing 한복 is typically reserved for special holidays and events like lunar new year or a family wedding.  Outside of that, most people just don’t have reason to wear it very much (unless you’re a shaman or you work at a cultural site–palace guards, anyone? Those guys must get so hot in the summer.)  No one asked me, but I think it’s kind of a waste because 한복 is so unique and elegant.

Just look at how beautiful! ↓↓ (@mayjeon)

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But I totally get it.  Even if there were more occasions to wear 한복, it’s not exactly the most convenient article of clothing, especially for women.  The voluminous skirt and underskirt in particular make it difficult to justify wearing for anything more than special occasions or for a few hours while wandering around and taking photos with friends, which has become a popular activity for girls and couples and tourists.  It’s just not practical.

Dying over here ↓↓(@hanbok_travelarts) (but seriously who could wear this in real life?)

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Then one day, some really cool designers decided to change all that.  Enter the recent trend of the  modernized or “daily” 한복 (개량 한복, 일상 한복, 데일리 한복, 생활한복).

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These artists have found ways to modify the 한복 for daily life without compromising the beauty and elegance of the original design and are encouraging people to wear 한복 once again.  생활 한복 has shortened the length of the skirt and has made other adjustments that allow it to be worn easily in daily life. Some 일상 한복 have additional modifications such as shorter and/or more narrow sleeves on the 저고리 (the upper garment), or a zipper to fasten the 치마 (which traditionally is tied in a bow with a single loop called 옷고름), and use of modern fabrics, patterns, and colors for both top and bottom pieces. Many daily 한복 shops also sell modern variations on traditional 한복 accessories.

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Some purists do not like this trend, but I think the work of these modern 한복 designers is important because not only are they creating beautiful clothing, but they are encouraging cultural pride as well.  데일리 한복 its not a substitute for traditional 한복 but an adjustment in the design that makes it easier for people to wear and appreciate 한복 and Korean culture more frequently and I think that’s lovely.

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Best of all they are really, really pretty.  THEY’RE SO PRETTY.  OMG THEY ARE SO PRETTY. Have I mentioned how pretty they are?

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These are my three fave 생활한복 accounts to follow on Instagram.




002. jake

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my husband goes by jake at work and with my grandfather, and i never really know what to call him when i’m talking about him because i just call him 여보 at home and i have mixed feelings about adopting english names but i’m just going to go with jake here.  anyway we just passed our unofficial third anniversary…and things have just gotten better with time. more complicated and more challenging, but definitely better ♡

cooking without 고추장

Almost a year ago, when I started cooking more Korean food,  my husband and I came to the decision to stop cooking with 고추장.  It started when I casually glanced at the list of ingredients and noticed the very first one listed was high fructose corn syrup, and that there were several other ingredients whose names I couldn’t even pronounce. What was in our 고추장? What should be in our 고추장??  So I started researching.

I read that sometimes the corn syrup on the English language ingredient list is a mistranslation of rice syrup, which is more commonly used in Korean cooking.  I understand rice syrup because I know that sugar is necessary for fermentation, but I didn’t like the possibility of corn syrup (especially when listed as the first ingredient) or the presence of weird preservatives.

I also learned that although families back in the day had their own recipes for 고추장, these days a good quality 고추장 is generally agreed to contain the following ingredients:

-red pepper powder (고추가루)

-fermented soybean powder (메주가루)

-rice/barley/wheat flour

-rice syrup (쌀엿)



Armed with this information, I asked my husband to check the 고추장 options the next time he went HMart in Atlanta for better quality one that didn’t contain questionable ingredients.  To be honest, I thought he would just shrug off the corn syrup, the preservatives, the unpronounceable ingredients and just say we should go ahead and continue to use it, but he jumped into the project with as much enthusiasm as I did.  He read all the labels, and even the organic and expensive 고추장 did not pass the test.  Some even contained MSG.

Now, obviously there is high-quality 고추장 available for sale in Korea, but it’s very difficult to find good 고추장 in the US, even though many Koreans live here.  So we started thinking about alternatives, and came up with a few options.

1. Spend a small fortune on a small amount of homemade  or “artesinal” 고추장

There is a Korean 아줌마 living in our area who makes her own 된장 from scratch.  This is actually so impressive to me because there are not many Korean people living here.  My mother-in-law started buying from her instead of purchasing mass-produced 된장 a while back, and it is is delicious. It tastes so much better than conventional stuff. She sells it in a huge glass kimchi jar, and it’s too much for my mother-in-law to eat by herself, so she gives us a generous scoop or two whenever we are running low.

This system is great for us, since my husband told me that conventional 된장 contains the same kind of preservatives as 고추장 , so we are very happy to be eating super healthy homemade 된장. This lady also happens to make homemade 고추장. She called my mother-in-law a few weeks ago to try to sell her some, and guess how much she was asking for a quart sized bag full.


EIGHTY DOLLARS?!!! Even if you grow the red peppers yourself, harvest and dry them, and then make the paste from scratch like she apparently does, that $80 price tag is out of control.

Next, we turned to Amazon to see if we could access any of these high quality 고추장, but all we could find were a few “artesinal” 고추장 options. True, these had a much shorter list of high quality ingredients, but their price ranges from $13 to $30 for a 7 ounce container, and that is just crazily expensive as well.

So we quickly tossed those options by the wayside.

2. Make our own

Maangchi has a great article about how to make 고추장 from scratch, which you can read here. If you had any thoughts that it’s a simple, hands-off process, this will illustrate just how involved it is at every step of the way. I had neither the time, the space, nor the patience to delve into the world of homemade 고추장 and so that was simply out of the question.

As a side note, this article has a great picture of homemade 고추장 vs store-bought and there is a huge difference in the texture and color. It’s so interesting.

3. 고추가루

At this point, it was clear that our only recourse, other than just give in to the super-processed 고추장 available to us was to make substitutions, and the only possible substitution is a combination of 고추가루 and soy sauce.

So when we cook a dish that calls for 고추장, we simply dump a load of 고추가루 and some spoons of soy sauce in there until the dish has a desired level of spiciness. We will sometimes have to add extra garlic or onions or mashed green apple (which we use as a substitute for sugar or honey) to add some more robust flavor to the dish to make up for what we’ve taken away by removing the 고추장, but it seems to work pretty well.

We’ve been cooking with a combination of equal parts soy sauce and 고추가루, and less of garlic and black pepper. For example, today we made a big batch of 체육볶음 with 3 spoons 고추가루, 3 spoons soy sauce, 2 heaping spoons minced garlic (다진마늘), one spoon of 참기름, 1 minced Granny Smith apple, and a generous amount of black pepper (to take away the pork smell).

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And it was delicious.

Unless we are able to find a good AND REASONABLY PRICED brand of 고추장, I think this is how we will cook from now on. It’s an easy and cost-effective alternative, it’s just as tasty as if we had used 고추장, and most importantly we aren’t putting weird things into our bodies.

If you have any suggestion for healthier 고추장 that won’t cost an arm and a leg, please let me know! I’m always looking for alternatives~

how to do things in your korean apartment

My husband made this for me when I lived in Korea and it ended up being a very valuable resource as I learned the ins and outs of the various appliances around my officetel.  I came across it recently and thought I’d share it here because it’s too helpful to keep for myself, especially considering I no longer live in Korea 。◕‿ ◕。

They are, from top to bottom:

▽How to use your washing machine

▽ How to set your rice cooker to cook while you’re sleeping (I’m still startled to this day when the rice is cooking because the ENTIRE apartment smells like popcorn and it shakes and steams and it’s 4 AM)

▽ How to use the ondol heater (mine was broken all winter long so this didn’t really end up mattering to me)

▽ How to get into your home if the door lock is out of power (luckily I never had to use this).



I fell in love with 단무지 in 2011. At first I was afraid to eat it because what was it? So bright yellow and weird looking. But I was in Korea for the first time, and I’d spent all of my money to get there, so I was determined to be open to all the new experiences. From the first tangy bite, I realized that not only was it much tastier than it looked, but that I really liked it. A few weeks later I discovered that it is infinitely more delicious when paired with Korean Chinese dishes. 짜장면 and 단무지 really should get married, don’t you think?

A few years later, my husband told me that conventional 단무지 like the one I had fallen for actually contains a lot of bad ingredients (MSG, saccharine) and preservatives. He also shared several horror stories about how it is produced and what may or may not go on behind the scenes, and from that day I knew that I could never buy 단무지 again. This was very disappointing news. How could I make 김밥 without 단무지??? I was sad for a long time, even though I’ve never made 김밥 before (It was always so nice to have the option, right?).

Fast forward to a few weeks ago when my husband brought some big 무 home from a trip to Atlanta and a lightbulb clicked on in the air above my head. If I wanted 단무지 so much, why didn’t I just MAKE IT?? And so that’s what I did.

Luckily, it is so easy to make, contains only a handful of ingredients, and pickles very quickly. I left it sitting out overnight to expedite the pickling process, and then set the container in the refrigerator for about 20 hours, and when I decided to check in on it, it was ready to eat!

I used this recipe (minus the peppercorns and 치자) and it turned out splendidly. Thanks to the turmeric, the color was almost exactly like store-bought 단무지 and the taste was great. Clean and refreshing.

My husband was almost as impressed with me as I was (I was VERY impressed with myself) and he ended up eating so many of them. It made me happy to see him eating MY 단무지, and I felt so proud of myself for having successfully learned this new recipe. And now that I know how to make a healthy 단무지, I can make a healthy 김밥 too!

NEVER EVER in all of my life did I imagine I’d find so much pleasure making pickled radish in my kitchen on a Friday night, and I love it.


In 2012, we went to a really nice restaurant in old 송도 to celebrate my husband’s birthday with formal traditional Korean food.  We had our own room and servers would quietly come in and out to bring us all of the courses like we were kings. It felt like we were in one of those restaurants that rich people go to in Korean dramas to make back door deals or seal nefarious political/business alliances or blackmail each other or congratulate each other on the successful execution of diabolical plans. You know what I’m talking about, right?

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Our chopstick and spoons were made of brass.  Really heavy, well-made, and simple. And ever since that meal, I started noticing other nice restaurants with brass bowls or utensils, and I’ve longed for brassware of my own.  They’re so beautiful and so deliciously heavy (I have a thing for heavy flatware).  After spending several years fantasizing about owning some, I recently decided to see if I could get my hands on a set, and immediately started crying because IT IS SO EXPENSIVE.
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I found two person set of bowls, 접시 and eating utensils for about $1,400 on Ebay. Oh, that price seems outrageous to you? How about $700 for a single setting? No?  Then how about just some chopsticks and spoons? NOPE. $70 for 수저? Pfffft. You can “buy now” a set of spoon and chopsticks for about $40. That is still so insane so I looked on G-Market and found one person 수저 for 20,000원. Still pricy. Le sigh.

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Obviously this 방짜유기 is cheaper to buy in Korea, but as I found from my G-Market searches, they’re still quite pricey there too. Traditionally they were used to set the royal table, and in 1983 were named an “Important Intangible Cultural Asset” — so it’s an artesianal, traditional art and of course it’s going to cost a lot.  If I ever become disgustingly wealthy, the first thing I’m going to do is buy myself a whole ton of Korean brassware.  But for now, I’ve adjusted my expectations and have settled on finding some decent bronze-colored chopsticks and spoons instead.