in january of 2017, we took a spontaneous weekend trip to atlanta. atlanta is about 3 hours away and my husband goes at least twice a month for work and korean dentist and korean haircuts and also we used to live there, so it’s not necessarily a super exciting destination but there is korean town, which we miss dearly since we now live in the middle of nowhere.
i was exhausted and sad from another unsuccessful month trying to make han dynasty actually happen, so we drank a lot of 소주 and ate 대패삼겹살 and did 노래방.
when he initially suggested going to atlanta, it was the last thing i wanted to do. i just wanted to stay home and wallow all weekend. but it ended up being such a cathartic night that i felt refreshed and renewed (and massively hungover, but that’s the price you pay for emotional release). i mean, when you sing bohemian rhapsody 5 times in a row*, how could you not feel like you’ve emptied your feelings and turned a new page? it was exactly what we needed.
*i highly recommend this as a remedy for any kind of heartbreak.
cartoon originally drawn march 18, 2017
it is common for korean couples to dress the same as a way to show off their couple status: matching jackets, shoes, shirts, hats, you name it. newly married couples may even purchase pj sets to wear on their honeymoon and in their newlywed life. it’s something i love, and something i always strive for in our relationship. we always ask, “what’s the code?” meaning, “how are you going to dress?” and try to match where we can. we have purchased the same winter jackets, hiking boots and shoes wherever we could, and sometimes if there isn’t an equivalent male clothing option he’ll just buy up a size or two in the women’s option. so we can show that we are a couple. i love it.
i can’t really pinpoint when i stopped sleeping through the night but it’s been years. sometimes i sleep talk and sometimes i’ve found myself walking around the apartment awake enough to realize i’m moving but not fully awake enough to know why.
in addition, my temperature changes a few times throughout the night, so i often wake up wearing more or less clothing than i went to bed with. sometimes, apparently, my mister helps me along. i’m quite lucky to have found such a caring person.
my husband goes by jake at work and with my grandfather, and i never really know what to call him when i’m talking about him because i just call him 여보 at home and i have mixed feelings about adopting english names but i’m just going to go with jake here. anyway we just passed our unofficial third anniversary…and things have just gotten better with time. more complicated and more challenging, but definitely better ♡